The Pursuit Of True Love: How To Increase Your Chances Of Finding The One

*Guest Post*

It’s Christmas time, and many of us are looking forward to spending time with loved ones. For some, this means enjoying quality time with a partner. For others, it may involve visiting friends and family. Some people love being single, but others hanker after finding true love. If you are on your own, the festive period can be a stark reminder of just how single you are. If you’re desperate to be in a relationship, don’t worry. Just because you’re not with somebody now doesn’t mean that you’ll never find your perfect match. Here are some tips to help you increase your chances of finding the one.

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Give yourself a chance

Are you working all the time or do you spend every available minute with friends or family? Sometimes, love doesn’t come to you. You have to go out there and give yourself a chance of finding it. If you’re not meeting new people, there’s a very low chance that you’re going to stumble across the man or woman of your dreams. Try and be sociable, and cast your net wider. You can learn something from every person you meet. If you don’t have time to date a lot, try taking up a new hobby. Go to evening classes and learn a language, join an art class or play team sports. Internet dating is very popular, but be careful. There’s a perception that many people are looking for something casual, rather than trying to locate their soul mate. If you are talking to somebody, take things steady. Get to know each other before you meet.

It’s also really important to learn and appreciate your value and worth. It sounds cliche, but if you don’t love and respect yourself, you’ll find it tougher to find somebody that does. It’s very easy to zone in on your flaws. We live in a critical society where we’re under scrutiny all the time. Try and concentrate solely on the good points. Everyone has imperfections. You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t.

Adopt a positive mindset

If you’ve been knocked back several times, it’s easy to go to dates with a negative mindset. Why should this one be ay different? Is there any point in putting yourself out there only to be rejected again? The truth is that if you have negative thoughts, this will affect your mood, and possibly the outcome of the date. Think positively. Why can’t this be the day that changes your life forever? What’s to say that this person isn’t completely different to all the others? The beauty of human relationships is that every single one is different. What works for one person won’t for another. If you’re focused and you’re persistent, you can attract what you want in life. A positive mindset is much more appealing to other people, and it will help you to feel more confident.

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If you’re single, you may think that finding the one is impossible, but don’t give up. Give yourself chances to meet new people, and appreciate what you can offer other people. Learn to deal with knocks, and try and stay positive. Don’t put pressure on yourself. You may find that you stumble across love when you least expect it.

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Relationship Advice

Don’t lose sight of self.

Don’t lose sight of her/him.

If you get lost, work to navigate yourself back to the moment and realisation, to which you felt safe enough and secure enough, to be vulnerable and open with the person you gave your all to.

The world is full of many people who don’t understand you, who simply won’t get your identity and everything you’re about. Are you ready and willing to let go of that one person, a person among billions, who actually saw you and accepts you for who you are?

On the other hand. Relationships, don’t jump in so naively.

Just because the media, society and every other member of influence tells you you’re supposed to, remember:

Only Like If You Have Truly Been Seen,

Only Explore If You Are Madly Interested,

And Only Love When You Are Deeply Accepted.

Otherwise there just isn’t any reason to Do.

Cheesy-90’s-love-song reference aside, learn to be yourself and completely open and honest about who you are and let others learn what you’re about. Otherwise, you’re simply leading your relationships into misery. Give yourself the opportunity to find love blissfully, completely and honestly. Anything less or alike is a mere an imitation or illusion.

Love, genuine love for even merely a moment, is worth much more than a lifetime of hypotheticals and regret. Take it from someone who has lived and lost this infatuation and works with the people entangled by this phenomena for a living:

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach

The Importance of Finding Love, In Life.

Post by VanCityLifeCoach.com

LifeHad a conversation about love the other day. It got emotional for some, and I found myself connecting with the word in a different manner than usual.

The notion that science finds difficult to explain becomes a hot topic in relationships. How it’s an inexplicable feeling that many strive to find and experience. However the more I understood, falling in love was hardly limited to just relationships.

As the conversation unraveled, people spoke about love in many different ways. I discovered that love applies to many different facets of life.

I concluded, that love was a word used to describe a genuine connection to another energy. Be it a person or people, destiny and passions, past, present and even future. It’s that definite recognition of life and how we’re supposed to live it.

A Narcissistic Paradigm

As we all spoke about love, it was always about how it “made me feel” or how “I felt” being “in love.” Powerful, accepted, right, natural, excited, obsessed, nervous, anxious, fearful, happy, blissful, safe….the words people used went on and on.

Although linked to another energy, the conversation about love was always about how we felt about ourselves. I too was trending this same connotation; the recurring theme around love seemed to promote the elevation of self. I expect this is why love is so incredibly personal.

I sort of stepped out of the conversation for a moment and in my silence, I began thinking about love in everything else outside of relationships.

My mind hung on the words people used to define love, they were exactly how I felt about my passions and how I felt about where my life was headed. Every time I think about the path I’m on, I feel elevated. The same way I feel about those I love, is just the same as when I relive some of my most cherished memories. From travelling through to random life events that left an impression on my life, and even how I feel when working on my passions today. Love was and is clearly present.

I guess love is the realisation of fulfillment. The only way we’re going to discover it, is to get in touch with our emotions and evaluate how we feel. I suppose the only way to find love in anything we do is to truly focus on oneself; by being honest, open-minded and aware. Only when we understand ourselves can we begin to understand others and identify the life we should embark on.

The Application of Love to Life.

Love is dynamic and I left that night thinking how we shouldn’t just apply it to only a few features of life. We should strive to find love in all and everything that we do.

After all if love feels so good, then why limit ourselves to finding love in just relationships? We should aim to fall in love with all parts our lives and not quit the search until we find it universally.

I love what I do with my work; my blog and my book and all the other things I’m finding fulfillment in. I love helping and inspiring others, it’s probably why I invest so much time nurturing and protecting my work.

People go their entire lives focusing on finding love. However, they embark on a cryptic journey to find another person. Love comes in abundance, in many different forms, ready to be discovered everywhere, in all that we do. So why not apply the search for this powerful sensation onto everything we do?

We shouldn’t neglect other parts of our lives solely because society limits the concept of love to a Hollywood story. Let’s not let our lives be wasted on simply existing, let’s give our all to everything. Yes, find love in our relationships, but find it in our passions and find it in ourselves too.

Love is infinite, available anywhere and everywhere. It’s probably why we can always fall out and back into love. It’s probably why we can never really peak in life either, so long as you’ve found something, anything worth living for, you’ve found love.

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach