How Music Can Help Awaken Your Passion

I watched this documentary [Alive Inside] and it reminded me of a message I drafted a few weeks ago. It inspired me to post it today.

To feel and experience raw passion, to discover and then nurture it, you must first tune into emotion.

Emotions pretty much control your being, they dictate your life and how you live it. Your emotions, if you can face them, could be the very key you’re looking for to unlock your potential. Great people are emotionally invested, driven by their own desires to make an impact on the world; they’re passionate.

Music helps.

Music has a funny way of guiding you into a flow state. It activates a spirit which allows your imagination to fly free. When you play your favourite track and you’re transported to a moment, whether that moment existed or not, that moment allows you to feel.

When you feel, your heart syncs with your mind and they both work in unison to guide you closer to where you want to be in life. The aspirations you hold onto are activated and you’ll feel like every nerve ending in your body, has connected you to your destiny.

A fantasy overwhelms your reality and all you want to do is engage; this is your opportunity to be creative, innovative and inspired…and whatever else you need to feel to encourage work towards your goals.

When your emotions awake, you also shed many layers of thought that may have kept you from attaining a certain individual quality with your work.

A focus on emotion can stimulate a rare vision that normally you wouldn’t have been able to access. I think back to some of my best accomplishments, most, if not all of them we’re emotionally driven. Some moments gave me the courage to act on impulse, and others allowed me to truly understand what I really wanted for my life, allowing me to drop expectation and live life on my own terms.

This includes negative emotions too, for instance, hurt can motivate you to break negative behavioral patterns and encourage change in your life. Suffering can inspire you to change the world and anger can be channeled into productivity.

So next time you’re looking to stimulate your passions, try putting on some of your favorite music, allow yourself to be transported to a moment and let the emotions you feel ignite a flow state.

For more information on the ‘Music and Memory’ organization and ways to donate, please visit: http://musicandmemory.org/. Check out the trailer for ‘Alive Inside’ here.

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach

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I get out…of all your boxes…I get out…you can’t hold me in these chains

Heard this track by Lauryn Hill years ago, remembered it recently and the message in this song is poignant and incredibly freeing.

For anyone just not feeling like themselves, feeling a bit lost or generally burdened by anything; it’s a good track to listen to.

Motivating, empowering and deeply personal.

I thought I’d share this to give anyone here a boost of creative freedom; to let your identity break free from any emotional captivity.

Don’t fear judgment, ridicule or hate.

Your genius yearns to get out.

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach

5 Reminders to Get You through a Tough Week!

Stress

We’ve all had to face challenging weeks; high stress, never-ending tasks and a little drama along the way…here’s 5 reminders to help you get you through it all.

  1. Get Your Priorities In Order

Understand your priorities, take a look at the week ahead and plan your time accordingly. Ensure that time is managed well and remember not to neglect anything. You’ll feel pressured by a tough week even more if you cannot make time for the important things in your life.

Get your work and life balanced, as one will always affect the other. Avoid a tough week from becoming a stressful month, and don’t be left with a wasted year because you “never had the time.”

  1. Plan Something To Look Forward To

If you haven’t done so already, do it now. If there’s no fulfilling reward and the end of this journey then you’ll feel even worse and more beaten up. Always work and live towards something that feels rewarding; particularly something that makes you feel accomplished and proud. Make all that hard work payoff!

  1. Engage In Daily Activities That Makes You Smile

For the love of beer have fun! If your finding there’s less smiles and laughter this week, you’re heading in the wrong direction. Make an effort to do something that makes you feel good after a tough day. The world has enough stressed and irritated people in it, so don’t become another one. You can face anything so long as you dedicate sufficient time in your day to distress by engaging in activities that make you feel good!

 4. Remove Yourself From Negativity

If you’re hanging with people who complain a lot then remove yourself from this escalation of negative energy. Hang with positive people who remind you of your identity, who give you the boost you require to get through challenges. Connect to those who motivate and encourage you; people who give you that confidence boost to see anything through!

  1. Turn Your Game Face On

You’re a force to be reckoned with, there are many challenges you have faced and have overcome, remember them! Take control and shrink the size of any challenge by growing the size of your spirit. Trigger your motivation by reminding yourself of what you are capable of. Remember you can’t be intimidated by the size of a challenge if your mind is focused, clear and open!

Happy hump day and welcome to September!

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach

I didn’t know what I was doing, but I got it done.

Here’s the thing, when I started this blog I had no clue about any of it. All I had were a bunch of words put together that developed into messages.

I was scared, nervous, excited, doubtful inspired, but all I knew was if I didn’t know what I was doing, but it felt right, I should just work on getting it done. After all, we all start somewhere and the hardest thing is sticking with it through thick and thin.

I heard this song and it kind of reminded me of that childlike character we adopt when we start something new. As we learn through trial and error, we begin to get confident as we progress and we want to explore things further, we forget about the struggles because we’re sticking with who we are. For instance now, I’m now working on my very first book, if someone told me that four years ago I’d probably laugh along with doubters, all I know is, if I put enough passion and dedication behind something, I’ll eventually figure it all out.

The journal entries I kept turned into this blog, this blog opened the door to the book that I’m writing and I also have plans for what comes next, but I’ve learned to take things one step at a time to learn more and gain even more confidence in my abilities.

People always have excuses as to why they cannot start right now, but this experience has taught me that nothing will change tomorrow unless I make it happen now. Each day a post gets delayed, each day I don’t spend writing, each day I don’t work to my potential is a day I’ve put my life on hold.

Find those little pockets of time to get things done even if you haven’t figured out how to do it yet. I know that in 20 odd year’s I’ll look back on my life content with the fact that I’d have invested my time well, even during crappy moments.

Today, even if you only have a small crumb of interest in something, explore it and who knows what wonders you may uncover, you may just discover your passions. Let doubters do the doubting and live life fulfilled by sticking with the things you love and staying true to yourself.

Music: Passenger – 27

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach

Learn to Align Responsibilities with your Dream

Appreciate what you have and use what you are grateful for as ammunition, for productive activity towards your goals.

Ever since I’ve started my own path in life, I’ve learned to take time out to be with the people I need to be with, to remind myself why I do what I do. I’ve also learned to take breaks and travel to places that remind me of where I soon want to be. I’ve learned to reflect on time, to understand what challenges I have overcome which strengthen my will to continue on with my pursuits.

There’s this misconception people have when it comes to chasing dreams. It’s suggested that you have to put your everyday life aside and develop some sort of tunnel vision of where your headed, blurring everything else in your path.

A belief that there are a lot of sacrifices we have to make, to make things happen. I now know that this is not entirely true, because the life you wish to pursue must echo within the life you live today. It is possible to turn moments that feel restrictive, into a major part of your journey. I have my responsibilities as do we all, and I learned to align these responsibilities with my work and make them worthwhile.

How?

Well for example, if you have a full-time job that pays the bills, use it to your advantage. Speak and engage in conversation with people/new people at work and take advantage of this learning opportunity. An opportunity to showcase and test your skill and talent, not just skills required for the job, rather the ones you have that motivate and inspire others by simply being you; a skill you’re going to need if you want success.

If you have children, break the everyday routine. I suggested to a friend that when it comes to waking up his family in the morning, he should inject high energy into the home. I suggested fun music in order to start everyone’s day motivated and full of excitement, turn a moment into a memory with purpose.

You can still pursue your dreams and make the life you’re currently living feel worthwhile. Take these moments that feel like a break from progression into a purpose for progression.

Your life today is full moments that positively impact your goals, it’s time you started making the most of them before you miss the opportunity to do so.

Inspiration for this post: Janet Jackson – Got til it’s gone

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach

5 Things Every Relationship Should Have

I often get asked why I post about relationships on this blog; it’s because relationships are a huge part of an individual’s success. People can hold each other back and people can propel  each other  forward. If I can provide my input to help others achieve the latter, then I believe this post fits right in.

Take what you will from the following list, but my entire relationship history has taught me to look out for the following 5 components.

1. Vulnerability. You need to be 100% yourself and honest around each other, be vulnerable enough to bare each other’s soul and share each other’s spirit. Being vulnerable is also being honest, which makes room for trust and to be easily read and to be easily understood. It keeps the relationship raw.

2. Identity. There’s nothing worse than getting into a relationship when you haven’t figured out who you are yet. Make it a mission to stay individual and embrace each other’s individuality. Strong identities in a relationship make it apparent when the other is not around. Make it easy to miss each other.

3. Support. Be each other’s biggest fan and support each other’s dreams. Ignite each other’s passions and beliefs and make it a passion of yours to watch the other become whole. Understand that you both began your own journey and rather than getting in the way of someone’s path, offer the support to help finish it.

4. Encouragement. Encourage each other  to become the best version of yourselves, rather than a version of a person that isn’t true.  To offer the encouragement to live life to the fullest and actually want to push each other to succeed towards individual goals and help each other overcome any crumb of doubt.

5. Challenge. Challenge each other, nothing turns loyal lovers to promiscuity more than the lack of a challenge. Challenge is at number five for a reason, if 1 to 4 are satisfied then challenging each other becomes second nature. It’ll encourage you to always keep the relationship fresh, to consistently remind, to prove and to embrace the reason the two of you stuck together.

If you review the list you’ll notice it’s actually really simple.

VanCity

Music: The Paper Kites – Bloom

Stand By Your Dreams

Inspired by a track on the radio, it occurred to me that the best moments in my life were when I truly did my own thing my own way, fully aware with a free identity. The times I spent travelling, the bold moves it took to take control of my own life, and the risks I took to get to where I am today; this journey began when I gave myself the opportunity to follow my own aspirations. Going my own way has also strengthened my confidence too. It’s encouraged me to overcome many challenges on my own and now I feel OK to say out loud “I’m proud of myself”, and not feel guilty or ashamed of saying it.

Going your own way doesn’t necessarily mean leaving everything behind and set off on a mission to find yourself. Going your own way is instinctual, it means going with that gut feeling and trusting yourself. When most people ask me for advice, I say “do what your truest emotions are trying to tell you.” I’ve said this before but it’s worth mentioning again: doubt and fear come from a lack of understanding and a lack of control. So go seek out answers to establish control, and align the rest of your life with your identity. Do what you have to do to live a fulfilling life.

You’re an individual with bags of potential, explore life your way to tap into it and take charge of your own life. Not one soul on this planet knows what’s best for you other than yourself. Everyone around you has an opinion, and yes, there is advice to be taken on-board, but ultimately it is you who chooses how you live. Don’t allow your dreams to become shattered or forgotten about just because someone, who doesn’t share your spirit and doesn’t understand you, says otherwise.

Going your own way is simply living life empowered by your own identity, each day you become more aware and self-actualized. Some of the greatest people I’ve come to learn about were once deemed insane among their peers, but they went their own way and they made history. You can too!

Music – Artist: Feetwood Mac Track: Go Your Own Way

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach