Imitation = Fear
Imitation is an expression of fear, because we imitate to blend in, to be accepted by society, and for others to notice that we fit in and that we belong. We imitate because we’re afraid of being rejected should we ever reveal our truest selves.
Many of us, predominately in the West I feel, are searching for that sense of belonging from a very early age. Think about how a toddler behaves, they walk around confidently, wearing the rawest version of themselves. Forever curious, they’re always in search of answers. Although it may not last too long, toddlers are also very compassionate, incredibly loving and confidently expressive.
I think as conscious awareness develops, there comes a time when we become curious about ourselves and our place in this world, and I think it’s at this crucial point when fear of expression starts to develop. It’s like we spend most of our lives slowly breaking free from a cocoon and once free, we’re very quickly misguided.
As we develop some independence we turn to the world around us for guidance on this human experience. However, the world is still very much an unequal place and as we receive its messages, predominantly through mass media, the majority of us feel underrepresented. When we do not see ourselves being represented, we quickly learn to feel that this is a world in which we do not belong, so what do we do? We imitate.
We buy into popular trends, we follow false idols, and we mimic those who are presented as most-self-actualized. We often do this so blindly that it becomes normal, until the distance between who we really are and who we’ve presented ourselves to be is so wide, that we become afraid to face the truth, and/or unsure of it.
It develops an anxiety of sorts, an uncertainty about the future and thus the quest for happiness continues to be a trivial pursuit. We feed fear each time we deny ourselves the opportunity to be liberated.
What are you afraid of?
I suppose we can measure fear by how much of our lives we spend imitating others. The world accepting us for how well we imitate it, is not the world accepting us. We’re merely helping the powers at be, reinforce their egos. If we want to be represented then we must show the world who it is that needs representation. However, chances are we’re all one of a kind and when we accept this we probably won’t care for representation, because instead we’ll be seeking only inspiration.
Remember the key to fulfillment, in any aspect of life, is a strong and affirmed identity.
Be you. Be inspired. Be Inspiring.
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I found out that needing women for my happiness and not having a purpose made me fake and unhappy.
Once I started my business I stopped trying to be accepted and that I don’t need women to feel content and happy.
Thank you for sharing this insight Philip, may I direct you to the below posts? I think the messages within them may resonate with your current mindset regarding relationships.
https://thelionslifeblog.com/2014/03/29/the-purpose-of-a-relationship/
https://thelionslifeblog.com/2016/09/19/how-to-live-life-with-integrity/
I will check them out soon, thank you for the suggestions, Terry.
Please create an archive, Terry, I wanted to read your first post ever and was stuck scrolling for 10 minutes! 🙂
Thanks for the Tip, I had no idea, I’ll get that done! Hope you enjoyed the read!
I did! Now get an archive 🙂
I can help you to create an archive Terry!
Thank you Philip, I’ve managed to create one. Thank you again for the tip!