Yesterday I didn’t feel like myself when I woke up. I slept in too late, woke up to some awful news, watched a lot of TV and ended up doing a load of nothing. As my eyes shaped square from too much TV therapy, I decided to put pen to paper and write freestyle, and I found myself writing the four most important lists of my life, and I urge you to do the same.

1. A list of misery: list out all the things that are causing you misery in your life today; anything that impacts you negatively. Do you hate your job? Are you in a unfulfilling relationship? Are you finances a mess? Society and expectation perhaps? Also, feel free to think outside the very aspects of your life, does inequality stir up negative feelings? Does homelessness and poverty impact you?… This list identifies the things in your life that keep you from living it.

2. A list of bliss. This one is quite opposite to the last list, write down everything in your life that impacts you positively: your hobbies, your interests, happy memories, social gatherings, maybe you love you job… Anything that brings you joy, add it to this list. This  list identifies the things that allow you to live your life.

3. A list of gratitude. Make a list of all the things you are grateful for: family, friends, health, love, wealth whatever your grateful for in life, however small it may be, add it to this list. This list is your most powerful, it’s a list of things that give you strength and determination. This list identifies the things that keep you alive.

4.  A List of goals. Goals you want to accomplish, the goals that will better your life, goals that shape your life the way you want it to be. This list unveils the directions you need to go to make list 1 smaller, list 2 endless and to keep list 3 set in stone. Remember this list will continue to adapt and change as you cross off each goal you accomplish and as you compile this final list, keep in mind that it has the biggest influence over the other three.

These are your lists so do not allow anyone else to influence them. Work on these lists right now and start embarking on a life you deserve.